Grief & loss
There is no schedule for this. There is no version of you that comes out the other side unchanged. There is only the honest company of it.
The long version.
Grief is not a problem to be solved. It's not something you 'work through' in a set number of sessions and then close the file on. The people I sit with in this work have often been told, in a dozen small ways, that it's time to be doing better by now. This work is the opposite of that. It's slow, honest company for what actually happened — a death, an ending, a version of a life that will not be, a person you needed and did not get to keep. We make room for the anger, the guilt, the relief, the love that has nowhere to go — none of it disqualifying, all of it welcome.
You might recognize —
- Everyone around you has moved on and you have not
- Feelings you weren't expecting — anger, relief, numbness, guilt — that make you question your own grief
- Anniversaries, songs, and ordinary Tuesdays that knock the wind out of you
- A loss that isn't a death — a divorce, a diagnosis, an estrangement, a version of your future — that no one seems to treat as real
- Complicated grief where the relationship itself was hard, and now the loss is harder for it
Questions people actually ask.
It's been a long time. Is it too late to start grief therapy?
No. Grief doesn't run on the calendar; it runs on how much room it's been given. Old grief opens up when it finally has somewhere safe to land.
What if my grief is 'complicated' — the relationship was hard?
That's often when this work is most useful. Ambivalent grief is still grief, and the guilt around it deserves care, not judgment.
Do you work with non-death losses?
Yes. Divorce, estrangement, pregnancy loss, a diagnosis, a version of a future — all real, all welcome.