What lives in a San Francisco week
The people I see from San Francisco rarely arrive saying they have anxiety. They arrive saying they're behind — even when the calendar, the comp letter, and the last review say the opposite. The anxiety is the fuel that got them here, and now the fuel is eating them.
Startup culture rewards a very specific nervous system: someone who can absorb a re-org on Slack at 9pm, treat a founder's mood swing as a leadership event, and internalize a missed quarter as a personal failing. That nervous system does not turn off when the laptop closes. It runs errands. It has a face for the partner. It wakes up at 3am.
The most honest conversations happen around the edges — the return-to-office memo that reshuffled a life, the equity that vested into a company that changed underneath you, the identity collapse when 'I'm at [company]' stops meaning what it used to mean. This is the layer we work on. Not the productivity system. The person underneath it.
You might recognize —
- You perform in meetings and dissociate immediately after
- Sunday-night dread that starts on Saturday morning
- Every review — even good ones — leaves you convinced you're one quarter from being managed out
- Your identity and your employer's name have quietly fused, and you're afraid of what's left if the company goes away
- You've optimized sleep, meditation, and cold plunges and you still can't feel your own life
Services that fit this work.
Specialization
Burnout & high-achiever therapy
For people who look fine on paper and are quietly running on empty.
Read moreFlagship focus
Anxiety & chronic stress
The one where you look fine and feel wrecked.
Read moreModality
EMDR therapy
Evidence-based reprocessing for what your body still holds.
Read moreQuestions people in San Francisco actually ask.
Do you have an office in San Francisco?
No. My practice is telehealth-only, statewide across California. We meet by secure video from wherever you are.
Can we do sessions during the workday between meetings?
Yes. Many of my SF clients book at the edges of the workday, over a long lunch, or after 5. I try to hold evening slots because the reality of a tech calendar is not a mystery to me.
I've done therapy through my employer's EAP and it felt shallow. How is this different?
EAP is short-term by design. This is depth work — meant to touch the pattern under the symptom, not manage the crisis of the week. It's a different kind of container.
What if I'm in crisis outside a session?
Call or text 988, or SF Suicide Prevention at 415-781-0500. Between-session emergencies are not a burden — they're a signal, and we build a plan for them.
Local and California crisis resources.
If you or someone you love is in immediate danger, call 911. Otherwise, these lines are free, confidential, and answered by trained humans.
San Francisco Suicide Prevention
24-hour crisis line staffed locally in San Francisco since 1962.
SF Behavioral Health Access Line
San Francisco Department of Public Health — treatment access and referrals.
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call or text 988 — free, confidential, 24/7, English & Español.
California Peer-Run Warm Line
Non-crisis peer support for anyone in California. 24/7.

